The year I got married was rather stressful. My now husband proposed on New Years Eve. I didn’t want a long drawn out engagement, so I began planning a wedding for June.
- January: My soon-to-be husband bought a franchise and began his business. This required a week of training in Toronto in which I also attended. During the trip on one cold, rainy dark night, the tire blew on his car. I remember standing out in the cold as he tried to jack up the car, only to have the car fall off of the jack. After that, I began walking and trying to find some help. At the time, I thought if we can make it through that, we can make it through other of life’s bumps in our marriage!
- February: I decided to have my 4 wisdom teeth removed. I was a little older than when they recommend the teeth to be removed, but the dentist still wanted it done. I had a couple of impacted teeth, so the surgery took a little longer. My husband and mom remember me crying profusely as I was coming out of the anesthetics.
- May: Early in the year, my boss and I were tasked with the job of creating an event that would happen in May for all of our company’s management to attend. People came from all over the world. I believe there were around 75-100 people. I had enjoyed planning events before, but the timing for this one was not good, as I was also working on final plans for our wedding.
In the weeks leading up to our wedding, we encountered emotional stress that dragged on before the wedding and early into our marriage. That just added to the stress.
- June: On one of the hottest days in June, we were married. We wanted an outdoor wedding. Of course, Michigan is not like other parts of the country where you can plan on a sunny day. So in adding to the stress, additional plans were made for a plan B.
Once we were married, I moved into the house that my husband purchased for us the year before. I was grateful for the house, however, it was our first purchase. We have learned from that experience for the next time we purchase a house.
The week after our wedding, my new husband was hit in the eye with a softball. He was playing shortstop and a racing ball took a bad hop and flew into his eye. He was knocked flat on his back and temporarily lost vision. I remember watching it from the bench and feeling helpless. We just were married and this happened. Fortunately, all of the pain and bruising went away after a couple of weeks and he hasn’t had any other issues since.
- September: I had another surgery. That was the 2nd time in 1 year that I was put under with anesthetics.
- October: I decided that I was going to leave my job to help my husband part time with the business. On the last day of work, I was sick and had lost my voice. I remember walking around trying to get the words out to say goodbye to everyone.
- November: I took time to try to recoup and help with our business.
- December/January: I began interviewing for part time jobs. The plan was to work part time, then help with our business in the afternoons. It was during that part time job that I started experiencing other strange symptoms.